When it comes to mental health, it is a very sensitive subject even for the strongest of individuals. Mental health is a real issue and there are so many men and women who have suffered from this and are still suffering from it. I am one of those who used to go through mental health issues for a period of time. It was a very dark time in my life and I thank God and those who were there for me every single day.
When you are feeling low, there is nothing anyone can do to help. You have such a negative energy towards everything and everyone even if they have done nothing wrong. You go to your room and just think about the reasons why you’re in this situation. People talk about the light at the end of the tunnel, but you don’t see that light. All you see is a black hole and you’re in the center of it.
You act like the same you when you’re around people so consequently they don’t notice how low you are in your life. You feel like no one can help you and no one understands what you’re going through.
The way I recovered from it was that I always used to write on my whiteboard a list of things I was grateful for. It was a very short list at the start but with time, the list started to grow. I started to realise that there were so many things that I should be grateful for and that life should be spent being happy and doing what you are passionate about.
Another thing I used to do was to just go for a walk every day. I would just walk, thinking about the things I was grateful for along the way. I learnt to find peace and happiness in being on my own. When you go on these walks and just experience nature and everything it has to provide, you will start to feel like a new version of yourself. A better version.
Find peace and serenity in the advice from other people. One person who I always look up to is Tyson Fury. He is a British Heavyweight boxer who had it all. He had the money, the fame and the world title. After winning the world title, his life took a dramatic turn for the worse. He would party, do drugs and drink excessively. I should also mention that he gained so much weight, you would never think he was the same person. He wasn’t interested in boxing anymore. Everyone thought he was living his best life but he was having mental health issues. His life was so bad that he tried to commit suicide.
One night in a bar when he was drinking, he thought to himself “What am I doing here?” He knew that this wasn’t the person he was destined to be. So what did he do? He went back to the gym and started to run. At the beginning, he couldn’t run as much as he used to because of all the weight he had put on. But he carried on. Every night, he would work on his craft to get back in shape and get back to fighting.
He came back and fought two rubbish fighters just to see if he still has it and he easily won both of these fights. He then challenged the title holder Deontay Wilder who was arguably the best heavyweight in the world at the time. One thing which everyone knew before the fight was that Deontay Wilder possessed the most power in his right hand than anyone in the boxing game. They fought and Fury outboxed him for the majority of the fight; slipping and sliding. In the twelfth round however, Wilder landed that vicious right hand followed by a left hook and Fury went down with his head clattering off the canvas. Everyone had thought the fight was over there and then. Fury miraculously got back to his feet with his legs looking strong as ever and managed to survive the twelfth round. The decision ended up being a draw but many people (myself included) believed that Fury comfortably won that fight.
The story of Tyson Fury just goes to show that anyone can be affected by mental health so do not feel like you are weak for being in that position. One thing we should all take away from Tyson Fury; everyone gets knocked down in life, it is the manner in which we get up which really matters in life.
Prove to everyone that you can get back up from the lowest of lows. It will not be easy but if you remember to be grateful for what you have in life, then you will be well on your way. Reach out to those who you trust and to those people who you know have your back no matter what. When you feel like you have a support system who will be there for you, then it makes life much easier.